HI, I’M JEI. A MUM WITH TWO AUTISM KIDS , A GARDENER AND A HOME COOK !! I’ve always been a keen and passionate gardener; I love growing plants and find a peaceful tranquillity in nurturing them.

Our plants are happy,
healthy and ready to
brighten up your space.

Jei

GARDENING THROUGH GRIEF

Welcome to my blog for all my musings. I started this blog so I could write for myself. To write about what I’m passionate about – food, gardening and being a mum. I’ve created this platform to share my learnings in life, and, although I’m no expert, I know that sharing stories can often help others to not feel alone. So if I manage to reassure someone, inspire someone, or simply brighten up someone’s day, then it’s a bonus.

I am only in my third year of having a garden and I’m truly learning as I go, I hope to be able to share my successes and lessons along the way, in the hope that it might inspire you.

we all discover different techniques to deal with and process our experience and feelings. There were many days I didn’t want to get out of bed, open the curtains, and certainly didn’t want to leave the house.
My garden however, became a safe space (much like being under the duvet), it was a place I could be without having to talk to anyone, or explain anything. I could take things at my own pace with no one rushing me or pressuring me to do more than I wanted to. It was a space I could process thoughts whilst being productive and physically active in a gentle way. I didn’t have to dress up, or put on makeup, I wasn’t out in public, but it was an open space full of fresh air and nature. It wasn’t overwhelming. It was manageable, and it was a solace

A REASON TO LEAVE THE HOUSE

We are all told how much better we will feel if we get out and go for a walk, but when your head and heart are so full of grief, sorrow, anger and sadness, the idea of going for a healthy walk is hard to put into action. I was processing a lot of things that had happened that I hadn’t been in control of, so when someone told me to do something (even for my own good), it made me even less likely to do it – I wanted something I could control again, to do things on my terms, for my reasons. Gardening gave me a reason to get out of the house. Some days I only managed a short walk around the garden But other days I was out there for a while and eventually I went to the garden centre to buy plants and plug vegetables. I never forced myself outside with the mind-set that “it will do me some good”, instead I embraced the days when I did feel I wanted to be out there, and took it slow.

Autistic Children And Gardening : Creating Autism Friendly Gardens For Kids🧩

A haven from the stresses of the outside world, the garden can be a therapeutic patch of sensory stimulation for those with autisms

My secret garden

No matter where your plot of land is — in the heart of a bustling city or down a quiet lane — there’s an opportunity to make your yard feel like a secret, secluded space. The best secret gardens not only feel private, but they also have a certain magic about them, evoking the sense of being removed from the hustle of daily life and transported to somewhere else entirely.

How to Make Your Garden Safer and More Enjoyable for Your Autistic Child ➡️ If you have an autistic child, it’s important to create a sensory-friendly garden that provides your little one with a safe, calm, and functional outdoor space that can be used to play, learn, and explore the natural world around him or her. For some tips on creating a safe and enjoyable outdoor space for children diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD)

Creating autism friendly gardens allows those with sensory issues to engage in an activity that is slow paced and relaxing. This allows individuals to take in the different stimuli available (such as color, smell, touch, sound, and taste) at a leisurely pace that is more readily taken in by kids with autism.

🫴 Fine Motor Skills ➡️ Weeding , Planting seeds , Lifting soil

🍅 Encourages healthier eating ➡️ Getting a child involved with growing vegetables and fruit from a young age could help them to become more comfortable with the idea of eating these foods, making a habit of healthy eating more comfortable in later life.

🧑‍🏫 Teaches them responsibility ➡️ The garden is a perfect space to give a child with autism responsibility over. They will quickly learn that if daily tasks aren’t done, their flowers and plants will suffer. Over time, this sense of responsibility will give them confidence in their abilities, and they will be proud of what they’ve achieved in their garden.

🌻 Following instructions ➡️ When your child starts gardening, they’ll need some guidance. People on the autism spectrum can struggle with following instructions and can find it daunting when they’re told to do too much at once. Start with small tasks and go step-by-step. After some prompting and re-enforcement, they will find it easier to follow what they’re being told to do, especially when the outcome is positive (e.g. flowers they planted start to bloom, vegetables they’ve grown are ready to be harvested).